My trip to Rome...... Part 1

19 th Sep 2008

Can you just imagine? Nine years of married life has passed away. He, my dearest has passed his seven year itch with flying colours, with hiccups.

Ravin and I have roamed the world from Mexico to Maldives in the Indian Ocean. Of course we dragged our Nilou (6 yrs) too around coping with all kinds of ills,fights and laughing away at funs and jokes having a good time.

Yet, somehow or the other my heart yearned to go out into the world as a free bird for a few days. Away from the mundane drudgery of daily attending to household chores, school complaints and constraints, arguments, and overzealous catty people, listening to Ravin's orchestra, preparing meals with no end in sight.

In the middle of 2005, one day I casually mentioned my inner feelings to my dear friend Suzanna who has two mischievous sons 9 &5. She jumped at the idea and our plans for a holiday on our own began to shape up. It took us almost three years to lay out a firm plan for our vacation. We had to overcome many constraints on the way.

In the end at last we have chose end of September is the best suitable time for everyone at home, and booked our tickets and hotel for three days (four nights away) in Rome.

My dear hubby, Ravin asked me one day with a mournful look, that wrung my heart away, "How do you tie a pony tail?"

Now am wondering what other task has engulfed his mind, something that's almost second nature to me. Three miserable, bloody days. And we had to plan for three whole years.

It is my fervent hope and deepest prayers that my Ravin wouldn't chase me around in Rome, with his calls asking where his small pieces of papers are. In fact those tiny little things do not run away on their own. They are simple docile things. They seem to run about only when the user puts them wherever (he) drops them. In the other hand, Nilou is very happy that she thinks, if momma is out, no need to study at home... papa and she can play without time limit (Humm if the cat is out of the house...) though she will miss me - she says. I will miss her too.

In any case, we are leaving, and there's no second word about it. And once we are back I will share our 'lone' vacation with you ...

Finding Nemo

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Want a successful marriage?

Here is something very practical and useful. It is all a part of my ongoing research on a happliy married couple who have completed 10 years
so, here is my .....

#1 Treatment for snoring is a must Don't delay-Just get it done, else kill him in his sleep.

#2 While driving No comments whatsoever

#3 Husband's in the kitchen Ladies, it is not an appealing sight, especially if you think of all the mess he is going to leave behind later. Always have a written agreement as per who is responsible for the clean up. And if the guilty party fails to do so, a planned punishment can be handed out to them.

#4 A wife gets a right to hit the roof if the husband doesn't listen twice And a husband only gets once chance to ignore wife. So you think I am on the wives' side. well, I am. Don't forget I too know how it feels like to repeat endlessly the same sentence to a husband who just filters you out. Think it's funny, only till I am around. The moment I am needed and not available you going to hear the messages on mobile phone."How many sugar/coffee?", "Where is the socks?","where is that jacket".

#5 Not saying something negative is not equal to saying something positive Don't outright flatter us, but just let us know in a few words and gestures why we mean so much to you. If you like something say so. We won't hold it against you.

#6 Home cooked meals and take aways Even though I love to cook food, sometimes I like to be fed. And not just omelette,rice & salad, but something beyond the husband's culinary talents, also bear in mind the issue #3 stated above.

#7 seven year itch.... It is an Itch....

#8 Share the gossip Husbands, if you presume we think of you as gossipless creatures, you are wrong. And if a little harmless gosssip can bring a couple closer why not. So let us know what is brewing hot in your world.

#9 Now you are used to being married and itches... It's almost time for a Diamond.

#10 Congratulation! Think about the durability of your commitment to one another for a full decade. (got the diamond yet?)

SO, TRUST ME, IT WORKS! GOOD LUCK!!

Didn't work out??? Ok Its time for divorce.